You certainly seemed to be surrounded by a group of Medical nincompoops and
dangerous at that! It is a simple procedure to repair a perforated eardrum.
Of course a repair may be contraindicated because to the middle ear
infection. That should be treated first. ( If it is a fungal infection that
can be a difficult cure.) Try amd find a competent otologist and get the
help you need.
If you tell me where you live I may be able to give you some names.